What I listened to / read
While I was surfing on the internet on Sunday night , I found an surprising topic on BBC News . It's "India woman held for posing as groom for a dowry" . Then , I think I should publish this on our IELTS blog .
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What it says
In India , Krishna Sen was arrested for demanding dowry because she has been masquerading as a men since 2014 when she first married. Then ,she separated from her first and married another in 2017. She also borrowed around 850,000 rupee from her second bride and had not return the money.
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My response
This was surprising when I first read this news because their marriage's culture is different from Thai marriage. In Thailand , paying and accepting dowry is one of normal tradition that the groom's family give cash ,gold or house to the bride's family . But, in India , The bride have to give dowry to groom's family for raising her child and allowing him to marry her.Ms. Sen can live like a man , and no one noticed that she isn't male. According to the news , she spoke in a different tone of voice , used man's toilets and mostly had male friend. It's mean that she had to pretend to be a man all the time. These make me really confused about her purpose because she has to spent time at least a year to make someone fell in love with her . Then , she can get her dowry. It's take long time and effort.
I searched on the internet for more information and found that mostly man pretend to be woman on online dating site because women usually trust the same gender . In addition , they can learn how do women think and do . These let them understand their girlfriend. It's also help them to philander when they crush on someone.
My first thought was that their marriage must have been a bit odd. How could you have sex with someone and not realise that they were a man?
ReplyDeleteBut then I remembered an article I'd read in The Guardian recently which discusses the common human habit of lying, with sex being one of the areas we lie about most, keeping things secret because we feel shame about them. One of the biggest areas of dishonesty is how much sex people have, where Google search reveals that a lot of couples, married or just living together, don't actually have that much.
Maybe the Indian guy pretending to be a woman just put off sex for the entire marriage!
Thank you Fern. That was a light start to my daily reading with the morning coffee.
If you would like to learn more about what Google search tells us about the deep, dark secrets we keep from each other and even from ourselves, the article in The Guardian is "Everybody lies: how Google search reveals our darkest secrets".
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